Friday, May 11, 2018

My life of service in Debtors Anonymous


(Essay written in 2006)


It sometimes strikes me as hilarious that I am a Trustee on the General Service Board of D.A. I don’t feel particularly qualified or worthy of the position. I’ve been free from incurring unsecured debt for only eleven years. There are many D.A.s with many more years of recovery. I’m sure there are a multitude of D.A.s who are more spiritually evolved. Certainly I know there are many who have newer cars, bigger houses, wiser investments, and wads of cash in the bank. So, what makes me think I am worthy of being a GSB Trustee?
Here’s what I’ve figured out: All it takes is honesty, openmindedness, willingness, and good time management and organizational skills! You can do it, too.
This is some of my service story. What I hope you will come to realize is that people who choose to do service at the Board level aren’t smarter, wealthier, or more spiritually evolved than anyone else; we are just more willing than your average D.A. to immerse ourselves in the sometimes messy business of helping D.A. operate and grow.
I got my first taste of D.A. service in Southern California, where there are enough meetings to attend three a day if one needs to. So many meetings means a thriving Intergroup, and that’s where I found myself: sitting on the periphery of an Intergroup meeting. I was shy and terrified, completely out of my comfort zone. I couldn’t bring myself to speak, but I listened and took notes, dreading in advance my group’s business meeting. I was too scared to give a verbal report, but I diligently published a concise, spell-checked paragraph about issues I didn’t understand, and left it on the literature table.
I learned that if you hang around as an Intergroup rep for very long, people start to know your name. When that happens, you can expect to be elected to an Intergroup position. In Southern California at that time, Intergroup was large enough to have a Service Board, and so I found myself on the Service Board as a workshop coordinator. I was way over my head, and I knew it, but something inside me knew that I needed D.A. more than D.A. needed me. So I said ok.
They say recovery begins when we stop debting. I believe my recovery in D.A. moved to a new level when I learned to say “yes” to service. Keeping my records, not using credit cards—for me, those weren’t the challenges. For me, the hardest part has always been—and still is—connecting to my fellows. I had felt apart, alone, “terminally unique” for so long; doing service meant I was constantly being challenged to interact with others. It was a painful, exciting, growing time, the heady early days of service. I wasn’t in D.A. to make friends, but somehow I did anyway. I began to feel part of something bigger than myself, something that had meaning and purpose.
Through this time I worked the Steps with a sponsor, and as is sometimes the case, things changed fast—and not in a pleasant way. My relationship fell apart, I couldn’t seem to find a job or a place to live, and in despair, I moved to Portland to figure things out. Portland struggles to maintain five D.A. groups. I found one I felt relatively comfortable with, and once I got over my tendency to say, “Well, in California, they do it like this!” the group elected me as their GSR. I felt like I was getting on a roller coaster, not a very comfortable feeling.
My first World Service Conference was across the country, in Craigville, Massachusetts, a little town way out on the end of Cape Cod. GSRs from everywhere came to a rustic retreat center to conduct the business of D.A. It was mid October, and frosty cold; we slept five to a room. Being vegetarian, I lived on hummus and pita bread for the week, while the others put on bibs and ate lobster. I joined the Literature Committee, and met D.A.s from all over the country. I met a skunk, too, one night as I was walking back from the dining hall. I didn’t meet any Trustees, though; on the podium, they looked elegantly inaccessible, intimidating, and overdressed. The Convocation—the assembly where the delegates make motions and vote—was chaotic and confusing, and happened to be held in a rustic church with wooden pews. I saw the sun rise over the Atlantic Ocean. The entire experience was magical.
I traveled to Albuquerque in 2000, and again joined the Literature Committee, where I presented the piece that my subcommittee had worked on during the year. When I saw people I remembered from the previous Conference, I felt glad, like we were family, and they remembered me. I felt like my presence made a difference. I was asked to be a member of the now disbanded Editorial Board of the Literature Committee, a small group that reviewed literature projects and recommended them to the General Service Board for approval. I witnessed the final revisions of the D.A. Promises, sitting in the sunshine by a huge window. Outside it was 95 degrees and hot air balloons floated down a green river valley.
For my third year as a GSR, the Conference gathered in Baltimore at a maritime academy. We shared the cafeteria with young cadets in uniforms. The towels were awesome. Again, I returned to the Literature Committee, ready to report on Editorial Board activities. To my surprise and intense discomfort, I was elected committee chair. With the help of three GSB liaisons, I fumbled my way through the committee meetings, and managed not to faint when it came time to give a report to the Convocation. I was particularly proud of my written report, which I hoped would make up for all the things I would have said if I hadn’t been petrified with fear.
Somewhere along the way, my perception of D.A. shifted: I started thinking beyond my local group and Intergroup, and began to see D.A. as a whole. I learned that the delegates’ responsibility to their groups continues during the year as they work on the action plans they created in their committees. I spoke with new GSRs attending their first Convocation and remembered my own fear, confusion, eagerness, and excitement. I saw how some delegates returned the following year, and how most did not. I felt like I was witnessing a grand, slow ballet. For the first time, I began to trust the committee process instead of allowing it to frustrate me.
Partway during that year, I was asked if I wanted to submit my name to be considered for General Service Board Trustee. By that time I knew two or three Trustees, so I was no longer intimidated, but I didn’t feel like I had enough years of recovery to serve at that level. I gave it some thought and decided to follow my personal service motto: When the finger of service points my way, say “yes.” I submitted a service resume. Some weeks later some Trustees called me and gently probed to see if I had a clue about what I was getting into. I didn’t, but I said I was willing to let Higher Power direct the outcome. And so I was elected to the GSB and began my first 3-year term when I was ratified in New York at the 2002 Conference.
I am coming to the end of my fourth year as a Trustee. I think I’m just now beginning to get a grasp on the dynamic and fluid relationships between the GSB Trustees, the General Service Office, the Conference, the committees of the Conference, and the groups. Most days I feel bogged down in the day-to-day details of trying to get things done, but every once in awhile, like when I write a share about my life in D.A. service, I set aside the action plans, and ask God for a wider perspective, a bigger picture of what D.A. is now, what it is becoming, what it could someday be. Then I am rewarded with a view of my own small part in the grand, slow ballet of D.A.
My recovery had deepened and broadened in ways I never would have thought possible even a few years ago. My attitude is more likely to be serenity than frustration these days. I strive daily to understand what it means to be a servant leader. Every day I have a chance to connect through service to a Higher Power of my understanding.
I try to do service without any expectations. I have hopes, but I try to steer clear of making my happiness contingent on achieving a certain outcome. I don’t always succeed. Usually it’s after I don’t get my way that I realize how attached I was to a particular agenda. Service is humbling. Service is ripe with opportunities to practice humility. A D.A. friend once said, “Service is the pit that sucks you dry.” I laugh whenever I find myself saying it, because it is true that doing service can suck the life out of you if you have an expectation of a specific outcome. Service is an opportunity to practice surrendering all outcomes to God.
Service in D.A. is practical. I learned communication skills by speaking at D.A. workshops; that experience qualified me for the job I enjoy today. Every day I hone my organizational skills. Sometimes I actually accomplish things. I am learning when to speak and when to keep my mouth shut. If those aren’t practical skills, then I’m not a debtor.
I am perplexed by D.A. members who say they are taking a “service moratorium,” or doing 90 days of “task abstinence.” I don’t think I would have survived if it hadn’t been for service. Nothing kept me coming back to D.A. except my service commitments. Nothing keeps me connected to D.A. except the service I do today. My recovery depends on my willingness to do service. Even if I totally flub things up, even if I’m not perfect, I still need to show up and offer what service I can, “to live usefully and walk humbly under the grace of God.”
I was told early in D.A. to remember to pass it on if I want to keep what I’ve been given. I like the life D.A. has given me. I do service for me, not for you, because I I can’t keep my recovery unless I give away what I’ve learned to others. If it helps you and D.A., wow, that’s wonderful. But I never forget, I need you all a lot more than you need me.
I expect to rotate off the Board at the end of my sixth year. Would you like to be the one to take my place? I’d be honored to pass the service baton on to you.
Thanks for letting me share.

Hope Newlyfound
2006

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